Every now and then, the tango zombie paths of old needed to be contemplated, examined, and corrected...
When I was an aspiring ballroom dancer many years ago, my teacher ( Sam Smith ) taught me two things:
- Some people do not look as good as they think
- People need to be honest with ego. If not, they get stuck and never progress
What he was talking about was that many, many people think they are so good, and thus, look good too. Unfortunately, when others see you, that is not the case... and, it happens a lot.
I was this (infallible) person once. I thought I was the best at what I did and no one could match me—Until I saw myself dance. It was during a performance. Oh my goodness! I looked horrible. That was a wake-up call.
I had to improve. In order to do this, I had to accept the fact that I was not as good as I thought I was. That was what my teacher talked about being honest with my ego
My tango critique evolutions
Seeing myself dance in tango was more challenging than I had anticipated. The complexity and finesse tango needs required me to contemplate and plan in order to move forward. My self critiques reflected my growth in tango.
- My early tango years
- Sometime in between now and then
Much to my chagrin, I realized that this, and my other preceding belief were quests of folly. Tango didn't work that way. I realized that tango is a balance of discipline, patience, technique, mechanical knowledge, all combined with caring for my partner.
- Seeing myself now
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Many, many people have said that "In tango, you dance for yourself, and your partner. Not for anyone else." True, so very, very true.
However, when I see myself and there are things that obviously need correcting, I need to "man up" and do something about it.